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My 2015 Resolutions.

Assalamu’alaikum and hi y’all. :)
As promised, I am here to share about my 2015 resolutions !

The last time I listed down my resolutions was during the end of 2012 and they were obviously for 2013. Sooo let’s see how many of them I can tick off.

  1. Not to miss my daily prayers and try to pray on time whenever I can. This is a constant struggle for me, isk isk. – STILL STRUGGLING.
  2. Try to cover my aurah properly – make sure my chest, neck, butt and arms are fully covered, buy and wear more long skirts/dresses/loose pants instead of jeans or form-fitting pants. Constant struggle too, isk isk. – STILL STRUGGLING. 
  3. Try to read at least one page of the Qur’an a day. -STILL STRUGGLING
  4. Strive to be a better wife, Mummy, daughter, sister, friend and worker. InshaAllah. – STILL STRUGGLING
  5. Work out a minimum of three times a week. Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays perhaps ? – CHECK ! I love you Zumba ! 
  6. Cut down on fast foods, junk food and carbonated beverages. I can already see Mr. Sunshine rolling his eyes. Hehe. I HAVEN’T HAD A SODA SINCE APRIL 2013, WOOT WOOT ! Can’t say the same for junk food & fast food though. Tsk.
  7. Keep on sharing the goodness of Shaklee with everyone ! – CHECK !

OhEmGee.
I am basically still struggling to get through the first half of my 2013 resolutions ! *dies*

Resolution No. 1:
To be honest, last year sometime around October or November, I went through more than 2 weeks of being low, sad, down to the point I literally had to force myself to get up and pray.
I’m not sure if any of you have ever experienced anything like that, but if you have, I am here to tell you that you will get through it.
I forced myself to listen to a lot of islamic lectures on YouTube (particularly by Yasmin Mogahed and Nouman Ali Khan) which I think was a huge help, I also listened to lectures on the tafseer of Al-Qur’an and most importantly I never stopped praying for Allah to spare me from the  ‘detachment phase’ I was going through.

A friend of mine shared this schedule which I thought is really good for anyone who needs help in keeping their ibadah in check. Everyone needs a push every now and then, right ? :)

Jadual Ibadah Harian
Anyone who needs this schedule, do contact me, I will happily email it to you.

I am hoping to be able to strike this resolution off this year ! Ameen Ya Rabb !

Resolution No. 2:
I have always been a jeans and blouse kinda person so this is really a challenge for me especially when I think that wearing skirts make my hips look huge.
They’re already huge to begin with, so I don’t want to accentuate them. And that’s where I am so superficially wrong !
I need to constantly remind myself that I do not have to dress to impress the people around me, I only have to dress to please Allah S.W.T plus HE gave me those hips anyway. Hehe.
I have just recently started wearing socks and hand socks to cover my feet & wrists (mencabarnya nak istiqamah bab ni !) I try to make sure I only wear wide shawls and/or tudungs which are big enough to cover my chest. In fact, I have been so used to it that wearing slightly short tudungs feel so uncomfortable.

Melissa Shaklee

More loose dresses please, Melissa !

Please pray that I will remain steadfast in my struggle to cover up ! Isk isk.

Resolution No. 3:
I really have no excuse for this. *slaps self*
Read more Qur’an, Melissa !

Resolution No. 4:
I believe this will always be a working progress because nobody’s perfect. But to be specific, I need to:
1. Spend less time on my phone and more time on Khayla & Mr. Sunshine.
2. Be more organized with proper time management to help me juggle between my family, job and part time job.

I hope all of you are doing OK with your resolutions. All the best ! :)

Here’s to an incredible 2015, InshaAllah. :)

xoxo

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2012 wrap up.

Hello !
I am here again with my 2012 wrap up post, like previous years.

  1. I resigned from the Ministry of Health and started working in UiTM in January this year.
  2. Mr. Sunshine finally got transferred from Terengganu ! Alhamdulillah. :)
  3. Marc and Linn had a beautiful wedding reception, and my best friend of 14 years tied the knot in February, Alhamdulillah.
  4. Failed in fully breastfeeding my precious Dian Khayla. :(
  5. I turned 28 this year, Alhamdulillah, and as usual Mr. Sunshine was amazing. :)
  6. My immune system ran amok on me, which caused me to have cold sores back to back for more than a month !
  7. Mr. Sunshine and I had to go through some babysitter drama, but things eventually fell into place, Alhamdulillah.
  8. Khayla was admitted to Selayang Hospital due to one episode of  febrile fits.
  9. Khayla also had to go through painful sores that came along with the Hand, Foot and Mouth disease (HFMD).
  10. Dian Khayla turned ONE in Ramadhan, and in August, Alhamdulillah. :)
  11. Got really emotional during Raya and took a trip to Penang  ! 😉
  12. Khayla was infected by the stomach flu, and spread it to everyone except Daddy !
  13. I attended the compulsory UiTM induction course in September, and passed !Alhamdulillah.
  14. Mr. Sunshine took us to Ipoh for his ‘Old Boys Weekend and then straight to Gan’s beautiful wedding !
  15. Khayla started walking at 13 months, Alhamdulillah. :)
  16. I fell in love with Shaklee and became an Independent Distributor. :)
  17. Moved out from Gombak in November. 
  18. Went on a book shopping frenzy with Mr. Sunshine at the Big Bad Wolf Sale. :)
  19. Rekindled an old friendship which turned sour a couple of years ago, Alhamdulillah. :)

My 2012 has been evidently filled with ups and downs, Alhamdulillah.
Alhamdulillah for still being able to breathe through all of it.

May 2013 be filled new spirits, stronger determination and loads of love ! InshaAllah. 😉

xoxo

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prayers for a better year.

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Only one and a half months into the new Hijrah year and I am already struggling with my resolutions.
Sigh.
I must try harder, I must !

I can’t believe 2012 is going to end in a couple of days.
I figured I’d list down a revised version of my resolutions to remind me once again that I have to follow through ! So here’s my revised 1434H resolutions list a.k.a my 2013 resolutions:

  1. Not to miss my daily prayers and try to pray on time whenever I can. This is a constant struggle for me, isk isk.
  2. Try to cover my aurah properly – make sure my chest, neck, butt and arms are fully covered, buy and wear more long skirts/dresses/loose pants instead of jeans or form-fitting pants. Constant struggle too, isk isk.
  3. Try to read at least one page of the Qur’an a day.
  4. Strive to be a better wife, Mummy, daughter, sister, friend and worker. InshaAllah.
  5. Work out a minimum of three times a week. Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays perhaps ?
  6. Cut down on fast foods, junk food and carbonated beverages. I can already see Mr. Sunshine rolling his eyes. Hehe.
  7. Keep on sharing the goodness of Shaklee with everyone ! :)

I think that should do it. InshaAllah.

I’ve been really bad on updating this space, since becoming a Mummy. Hehe. I think I’m gonna go ahead and summarize a few happenings around November and December.

I met up with my BFF (always wanted to write that in a post, I feel like Paris Hilton already !) of 14 years – who is 7 months (now 8) pregnant – after a looong time ! Alhamdulillah, I am ecstatic for her and I can’t wait for her to give birth to Khayla’s ‘cousin’. InshaAllah. :)

Love you !

Another best friend of mine lost her mum to cancer last week. Inalillah. :'(
It’s heartbreaking that I can’t be there for her as much as I want to.

Picture taken when we paid a visit to Annisa’s mum before she passed away.

Marlene had her diploma convocation early this month. Woot ! Alhamdulillah, congratulations little sister ! I only have two pictures with me, the rest are with Marc.

Mr. Sunshine and I took leave to go to the Big Bad Wolf Sale. I had to miss the previous sales because we were in Terengganu. We went on the first day of the sale and went on a book shopping frenzy ! I had to resist the urge to go again and again.

The damage.
Two very happy shoppers !

I passed my induction. Alhamdulillah.

I was on medical leave for two weeks due to conjunctivitis. Isk isk. Wasn’t a comfortable experience, but I’m grateful to be cured now. Alhamdulillah. 

We spent Christmas afternoon at Aunt Thelma & Charlotte’s like every year with pie, devil curry and good company of relatives. No turkey though this year, hehe. We had to leave early to attend Mr. Sunshine’s friend’s wedding. Isk. I think next year we should be there a little later so that we can meet all of our relatives who are usually present. Please note that my eyes aren’t fully recovered yet in these photos. Hee.

Auntie Marlene helped open Khayla’s present from her grandaunts. :)

Khayla with grandaunt Thelma (arwah Mummy’s cousin).

Me holding Faizal & Dee’s adorable little Rauf ! My eyes were still slightly swollen that day.
Second cousins, Marlene & Faira holding third cousins Rauf & Dian Khayla. :)

That same night, Mr. Sunshine and I treated the whole family to dinner & dessert at Swensen’s. This was to celebrate Marc’s belated birthday (he turned 26 a month ago, haha) and Marlene’s graduation. :)

Pretty sister and I. Ugh my eyes !
Mr. Sunshine and I. Ugh my eyessss !
Daddy Candy !
This was the beginning of a drama in which Khayla cried her lungs out because she didn’t want to get in the car with her Mummy and Ayah. She wanted to stay with her Auntie Linn !

I think I’ve pretty much summed up my November and December.

Ok bye.

xoxo

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1434H resolutions

I am a bit of a failure when it comes to resolutions.

There will always be a few on my list which will be left unchecked and undone.
But since I’m 28 years young this year and already a wife and a mother, I’m thinking I should set a good example to my daughter. Ahem. Hehe.
I’m gonna list down a few resolutions and make sure I strike out each & every one of them this year, InshaAllah.

Ok here goes…
This year I shall:

1. Not miss my daily prayers, and try to pray on time.
2. Try to cover my aurah properly – make sure my chest, neck, butt and arms are fully covered, buy and wear more long skirts/dresses/loose pants instead of jeans or form-fitting pants.
3. Strive to be a better wife, Mummy, daughter, sister and friend – I feel that I am lacking so much in this area, sobs !
4. Work out every day like I used to, okayyy maybe at least three times a week. Hehe.
5. Try to cook delicious food like arwah Mummy did, for my family – Until this day, I haven’t found anyone who cooks as good as Mummy does. Even the dishes that she made, totally different ! Rindunya. :(
6. Keep on sharing the goodness of Shaklee with family & friends. :)

Ok let’s keep it at 6 for the time being, don’t want to be over-ambitious now, do we ? Hehe.

Salam Maal Hijrah 1434H everyone !
Out with the bad, in with the good ! InshaAllah. :)

xoxo

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khayla’s first hospital admission.

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It all started two weekends ago, on a Saturday, after we came back from Melaka for a wedding. I felt that Khayla was a bit warm that evening, so I assumed she was getting a fever. Mr. Sunshine hugged her and she immediately fell asleep in his arms. When she woke up, I held her in my arms and felt that her body was getting hotter. I checked her temperature and it was 37.7 degrees Celcius. Although it wasn’t that high, she was unusually weak and pale, refused to drink milk and wasn’t playing around like her usual self. She was just clinging to me. I decided to give her a dose of Paracetamol syrup and bathe her.

When I put her into her tub, she starting shivering like nobody’s business. Lene & I actually teared up because we had never seen her like that. She didn’t stop shivering while I was dressing her up. I took a damp towel and dabbed her head and body in an effort to bring down her temperature. I tried talking to her and calling out her name, but there she was, clinging to me and staring into blank space. I knew something wasn’t right so I woke Mr. Sunshine from his nap. My exact words to him were, “Ayang, kenapa Khayla lemah semacam je ni ??.”

Suddenly, her eyeballs were rolling up, and her hands were curled up and stiff, fists clenched, and she was shaking vigorously. It took me a few seconds to register that she was having a seizure !
I PANICKED.
I passed her to Mr. Sunshine, put on my tudung and took a damp cloth with me. Lene drove (like a pro) us to the nearest medical centre, which was Gombak Medical Centre. In the car, she was still having convulsions and was not responding to anyone. Imagine the state of panic we were all in at the time !
I found a mineral water bottle and passed it to Mr. Sunshine and told him to pour the water on her (I soon learned that it wasn’t the right thing to do at the time). It was then that we heard her voice, so we knew she was awake. Her fit lasted for about 5 agonizing minutes.
At the medical centre, her temperature was 39.7 degrees, and she was shivering because the nurses stripped her to her diaper and were sponging her body. We were told to bring her to a hospital for further assessment.

We brought her to Selayang Hospital, she was groggy and unresponsive along the way. Her temperature was 39.8 degrees Celcius at the emergency department. They took her blood to determine the source of fever and to rule out meningitis. Her white blood cells were slightly elevated (usually a sign of presence of an infection) but the doctor told me she didn’t think it was meningitis or any infections of the brain. Khayla had to be admitted for monitoring purposes.

All of this happened within TWO HOURS !

Her temperature was still high throughout the first night but subsided the following Sunday morning. Alhamdulillah, she was slowly going back to being her old self that day. Alhamdulillah she did not have any subsequent fits. But since she already has history, there is a chance that it will occur again so Mr. Sunshine and I have to be really careful whenever she has a fever. Khayla was discharged on Monday. Her diagnosis was simple febrile seizure secondary to viral fever.

What are febrile seizures/fits ?

Simple febrile seizures are caused by fever in a child aged 6 months to 5 years. The single seizure is generalized and lasts less than 15 minutes. The child is otherwise neurologically healthy. Fever (and seizure) is not caused by illnesses affecting the brain.
Complex febrile seizures are usually prolonged (more than 15 minutes), or multiple seizures occur in close succession. 
Symptomatic febrile seizures occur in a child who has a preexisting neurological abnormality or acute illness.  Source.

Symptoms are uprolling of the eyeballs and/or shaking and jerking of the limbs and/or body stiffness.

From what I learned from the doctors in Selayang hospital, one-third of children who have febrile seizure will have another one, and about 50% of those will have a third. Isk isk. I also found out that parents who have had febrile seizures when they were a kid are likely to pass it on to their kids. Mr. Sunshine had three episodes of febrile seizures when he was a kid !

And now here’s the important bit, what you should do when your child has a febrile seizure ?

  1. DON’T PANIC ! These were the first words in the pamphlet I received from Selayang Hospital. Easier said than done !

  2. Quickly place him on his side, away from hard objects. Gently turn his head to one side so he won’t choke if he vomits. 

  3. Make sure he doesn’t have anything in his mouth, and don’t put anything in his mouth while the seizure lasts.

  4. Keep track of how long the seizure lasts (and try to remember !). If it goes on for longer than three minutes, bring him to the hospital.

  5. If your child has difficulty breathing, if he’s choking, or if his skin turns blue, bring him to the hospital immediately !

  6. If it was your child’s first episode – no matter how short it was – bring him to the hospital. This is to make sure he doesn’t have a serious infection or other problem that caused the fever.

  7. Don’t try to lower your child’s fever during a seizure by giving him medication, putting him in cool water, or sponging him off. Oooops.  Source

I pray that nothing like this will ever happen again, but if it does, I need to learn to stay calm !

I shall write about Khayla’s experience with the Hand, Foot and Mouth Disease (HFMD) when I have spare time.

Goodnight all.
Assalamu’alaikum. :)

xoxo

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my breastfeeding case.

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I stopped breastfeeding entirely after Khayla turned 7 months. It was one of the most difficult decisions I have ever had to make.
After months of battling with my emotions, I think I am finally comfortable with the fact that I chose to stop breastfeeding my baby, for the best of baby and I.

Reasons why I chose to do so:
1. Khayla refuses to drink my expressed breastmilk (EBM). She would only want to breastfeed directly. That made it tough for the babysitter, so I started supplementing with formula only when Khayla was at sitter’s place.
2. My milk production decreased tremendously after a bout of fever and food poisoning and no Fenugreek or power pumping could do anything to save it.
3. Khayla would get agitated every time she breastfeeds because of the little amount of milk she was receiving. She was so cranky ! Poor baby. :(
4. I was stressed out and exhausted 24-7. When I was breastfeeding, I was stressed because Khayla was stressed and when I wasn’t breastfeeding, I was stressed out because I was constantly thinking about my breastfeeding issues. I was always mad at myself. The exhaustion from pumping milk, work and traveling back and forth from Gombak to Shah Alam every day also had its effects on my emotional well being.

Khayla is less cranky now that she doesn’t have to work so hard to get milk when she’s hungry, she has been sleeping throughout the night ever since, and is a really active and healthy baby.

I have now realized that doing what is best for my child means understanding what is best for me too. Sometimes it’s about what I am comfortable with. If I am not happy, and stressed out all the time, how am I supposed to raise my baby to be a happy baby ? I believe in raising my child in a loving, stable environment and providing her with a good education. That’s infinitely more important than whether I choose breastmilk or formula.
In my case I can say that this decision has helped me physically and mentally.

Yes, breastmilk is the best milk, but formula isn’t that bad either.
Only Allah knows how much I miss breastfeeding, but I’ve gotta be strong because I’m a mother now. :)

To all mothers who feel pressured to breastfeed, or have tried to breastfeeding with little/no success, don’t fret ! At the end of the day, it is YOUR decision, YOU are the mother of your child and YOU have the right to determine what you want to feed her with. Breastmilk is rezeki from Allah, and as for all other rezekis HE blesses us with, HE can take it back whenever HE wants. You should not feel guilty or inferior !

And finally, let’s get something straight, opting to formula feed does not mean your baby will be prone or have less immunity to illness !

xoxo

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2011 wrap up.

Hi all !
Linn is taking care of Khayla while I take some time off to give you all a gist on what has happened in my life throughout 2011, like I did last year.

  1. On January 9 this year, Mr. Sunshine and I turned one, Alhamdulillah. My Mr. Sunshine is the best ! :))
  2. I got pregnant (Alhamdulillah) and gained a whopping 16 kgs throughout my pregnancy ! Well I actually found out I was pregnant in December last year but waited after my first trimester to let the cat out of the bag. :)
  3. I turned 27, and as usual Mr Sunshine had some surprises for me. Mr. Sunshine turned 26 this year, and I conveniently forgot to blog about it ! I bought him a HP Pavilion notebook, because his PC was giving him so much trouble. :)
  4. Craved a whole lot of food that weren’t available in Terengganu.
  5. The family came over for another visit this year and we had a blast ! ;D
  6. Almost went through a nervous breakdown. Haha.
  7. I made my first curry puff this year ! Hehe.
  8. In June, we found out we were having a baby girl which was due in August. :)
  9. I was warded for a night (and traumatized) due to a fall.
  10. Mr. Sunshine and I had our babymoon in Colmar Tropicale, Bukit Tinggi.
  11. I went through 21 hours of labour and gave birth to a beautiful baby girl named Dian Khayla on August 13. Alhamdulillah.
  12. The week after my baby was born, I was offered a job as a pharmacist in UiTM, Alhamdulillah.
  13. Marc and Linn got married ! Alhamdulillah. :))
  14. I got my resignation from KKM and pelepasan dengan izin approved yesterday, Alhamdulillah, and will be reporting for duty in UiTM next Tuesday, InshaAllah.

Alhamdulillah.

This year, I’m ushering in the year 2012 with my family here in Gombak. Mr. Sunshine is in Terengganu because he has to work tomorrow. I miss him tremendously ! Sobs. :(

May 2012 be a better year for all of us, InshaAllah.
Happy New Year everyone ! :)

xoxo

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the chronicles of my weight (gain).

Khayla has been asleep since 1300 hours just now.
I have managed to freshen up, express milk, have lunch, perform my Zuhur prayers and tidy up the house a little. I’ve tried going back to bed but my eyes just won’t shut.
Since I have nothing better to do, I thought I’d put up a post on my pre and post pregnancy weight fluctuations. Narcissistic, much ?

I am gonna file this post under my ‘notes to self’ label to remind me that I still have a few kilos to shed and not to overeat like tak sedar diri. :)

Before I got hitched, my weight was around 54 to 55 kgs, which was considered normal for my height. I’ve always been curvy, blessed with (huge) boobs and (huge) hips. My other body parts are considerably smaller, which is why I think a number of people wouldn’t believe me when I told them I weighed 54kgs. There were even some who thought I weighed 10 kgs lighter !
But as Oprah puts it, it’s not about the number on the scale, ……okay so I forgot the rest of the quote but you get the picture, don’t you ? Haha.

Moving on !

1. I got married in January 2010 and I lost 2kgs for my wedding.

January 2010 – 52 kgs

2. By November 2010, I gained back the 2kgs I lost. Hehe.

November 2010 – 54 kgs

3. In March 2011, and at 16 weeks pregnant, I had already gained 3kgs.

March 2011, 16 weeks pregnant – 57 kgs

4. The weight was steadily piling on as the weeks progressed.

April 2011, 20 weeks pregnant – 59.5 kgs

5. May 2011 – There was just no stopping me at that time. I was happily putting on 5 kgs within a month ! The nurses at my antenatal clinic weren’t so pleased. Hehe.

May 2011, 24 weeks pregnant – 64.5 kgs

6. In June 2011, my weight skyrocketed, again !

June 2011, 28 weeks pregnant – 68 kgs

7. July 2011 – I just couldn’t stop getting fatter. Haha. But by this time, the weight increment was slower than the previous two months. Phew !

July 2011, 32 weeks – 69.5 kgs

8. In August 2011, it dawned on me that I had gained about 16 kgs throughout my pregnancy ! Woahhhh !

August 2011, 32 weeks – 70.5 kgs

9. About a month after I delivered my precious baby Dian Khayla, I only managed to shed about 7 kgs off ! *nangis*

September 2011, 3 weeks post-partum – 63 kgs

10. To date, I have lost a total of 10kgs, and I still need to lose another 6 kgs to get to my pre-pregnancy weight.

October 2011, 2 months post-partum – 59 kgs

I’ve got around 2 inches to lose around my hips in order for me to fit into most of my old baju kurungs a.k.a my work clothes. If I don’t lose ’em, looks like Mr. Sunshine’s gotta take me on a shopping spree ! Hehe.

I’m lucky I can still squeeze myself into a couple of baju kurungs, because I had a wedding to attend yesterday.
Here’s to hoping I get to say goodbye to my extra kilos, soon !

xoxo

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tainted.

And whoever is patient and forgives – indeed, that is of the matters [requiring] determination. (Ash-Shuraa 42:43)

Ramadhan blessing: Performing jama’ah prayers with Mr. Sunshine. Alhamdulillah.

xoxo

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50 Things You Need to Know About Marital Relationships

Excerpted from Al Maghrib Institute’s “Fiqh of Love” seminar with Shaykh Waleed Basyouni.

I came across this quite some time ago, felt that it’s worth sharing. :)

1. Great relationships don’t just happen; they are created. You have to work at it.
2. If your job takes all of your best energy, your marriage will suffer.
3. One of the greatest gifts you can give your spouse is your own happiness.
4. It is possible to love and hate someone at the same time.
5. When you complain about your spouse to your friends, remember that their feedback can be distorted.
6. The only rules in your marriage are those you both choose to agree with.
7. It is not conflict that destroys marriage; it is the cold, smoldering resentment that you hold for a long time.
8. It’s not what you’ve got, it’s what you do with what you have.
9. If you think you are too good for your spouse, think again.
10. Growing up in a happy household doesn’t ensure a happy marriage, or vice versa.
11. It’s never too late to repair damaged trust.
12. The real issue is usually not the one you are arguing about.
13. Love isn’t just a feeling; it is expressed through our actions.
14. Expectations set us up for disappointment and resentment.
15. Arguments cannot be avoided, but destructive arguments can be avoided.
16. One of the greatest gifts you can give your spouse is focused attention.
17. Even people with happy marriages sometimes worry that they married the wrong person.
18. Your spouse cannot rescue you from unhappiness, but they can help you rescue yourself.
19. The cost of a lie is far greater than any advantage you gain from speaking it.
20. Your opinion is not necessarily the truth.
21. Trust takes years to establish and moments to destroy.
22. Guilt-tripping won’t get you what you really want.
23. Don’t neglect your friends.
24. If you think, “You are not the person I married,” you are probably right.
25. Resisting the temptation to prove your point will win you a lot of points.
26. Generosity of spirit is the foundation of a good marriage.
27. If your spouse is being defensive, you might be giving them reasons to be like that.
28. Marriage isn’t 50/50; it’s 100/100.
29. You can pay now or pay later, but the later you pay, the more interest and penalties you acquire.
30. Marriage requires sacrifice, but your benefits outweigh your costs.
31. Forgiveness isn’t a one-time event; it’s a continous process.
32. Accepting the challenges of marriage will shape you into a better person.
33. Creating a marriage is like launching a rocket: once it clears the pull of gravity, it takes much less energy to sustain the flight.
34. A successful marriage has more to do with how you deal with your current reality than with what you’ve experienced in the past.
35. Don’t keep feelings of gratitude to yourself.
36. There is no greater eloquence than the silence of real listening.
37. One of the greatest questions to ask your spouse is “How best can I love you?”
38. Marriage can stay fresh over time.
39. Assumptions are fine as long as you check them before acting upon them.
40. Intention may not be the only thing, but it is the most important thing.
41. Good sex won’t make your marriage, but it’ll help.
42. Privacy won’t hurt your marriage, but secrecy will.
43. Possessiveness and jealousy are born out of fear, not love.
44. Authenticity is contagious and habit-forming.
45. If your spouse thinks something is important, then it is.
46. Marriage never outgrows the need for romance.
47. The sparkle of a new relationship is always temporary.
48. There is violence in silence when it’s used as a weapon.
49. It’s better to focus on what you can do to make things right, then what your partner did to make things wrong.
50. If you think marriage counseling is too expensive, try divorce.

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